Wealth, Class and Status

While surfing thru the net, trying to get myself occupied, I chose to view a very familiar webpage – a webpage that is administered by a close friend of my hubby, a friend he knew back in school. As I was looking at the nice pics uploaded, and reading her entry for each update, I must say and admit that I envy her family status in the society. You know why? With the help of her family’s close and personal contact, she gets the pleasure of spreading her business’ wings. Imagine how long will it take for an average joe or jane with no close contact with the elite classes in society, in order to talk in them into business let alone convince them to hire the expertise or service that (s)he provided? It’s beyond my wildest imagination when these elite people could easily buy everything that is said by someone who’s in the same class as they. Would they give the same response to an average joe or jane who tried to talk them into business? I don’t think so. What kinda privilege that they possess in society that give them the right to look down at those who don’t belong in their so-called elite class? And most important of all, what does the person in your class have said that the average joe or jane didn’t say when they both were trying to talk you into business.

Sometimes, I think that nowadays people are valued for what they have, their possession and their status or class in society. Politicians claimed that democracy provides freedom and equal opportunity for all the people who elected them. Well, what is said is not what is done. If those people in the elite class keep on putting full thrust and giving opportunity to those within their class, I strongly believe that poverty and wealth will continuously be inherited and passed on from one generation to another.

I must also say that I do believe that everybody has equal chance to change their fate but I’d like to stress that it’ll take more effort for an average joe or jane to change their fate and quality of life compared to those who inherited the elite status from their parents. How do I proof myself right? Let’s analyse together shall we. Compare these two situations, an average joe/jane has nothing to start with - no hot leads, not a very strong financial aid, the only thing that they have is idea. On the other hand, this child born in the elite class, automatically inherits and builds strong connection with potential client, and most important of all monetary aid and support from family to start a business. All this child has to do is strengthens the connection, and at any given time easily sweet-talk them into business. Business and life are so much easier for this child as (s)he already has a strong and solid foundation to continuously live up his/her life. Everything that (s)he needs has been laid, all (s)he has to do is grab the chance when the average joe/jane had to work his/her ass up and learn the hardest way just to get a small business deal. So, this is what they call equal opportunity for all to compete, huh?!

I’m not fed-up of the way our government is maneuvered by the politicians or in anyway going against their rulings. I’m just sick and tired of the way things are set in our society, how the rich gets richer and the poor continuously stays in poverty or at least the next generation had to work hard just to get up a notch in the society hierarchy. If this goes on, we’re actually cultivating a very unhealthy competition in not just business industry but most of all, life. Maybe some of you think how does unequal business opportunity relate to chances in life? Well, let’s ponder at another situation. An average joe/jane could only afford to go to average school, while a child from elite class is sent to most of the time, infamous private school that’s well know for best educational institution. And the list goes on, on how fortunate the child from elite class can be. I’m just writing about business and education just to name a few.

Now, imagine the bigger picture and how wealth, class and status in society impact one’s quality of life and most of all the opportunity to change one’s fate.

P/s: I’m not babbling about this out of regret for being born as an average jane in fact I’m grateful to be average jane because I get the chance to strive and work hard to succeed. And what better way to learn a lesson than the hard way.

Selamat Hari Raya Aidilfitri

With raya song humming in my head, I'd like to wish all my muslim friends "Selamat Hari Raya Aidilfitri, Maaf zahir & batin". This year, my hubby & I have decided to celebrate the 1st day of raya at my parents' place in Subang. We may be heading back to my hubby's kampung on the night of raya, so that we'll be able to reach his kampung before dawn of the 2nd day of raya. We intend to avoid traffic that's predicted to be heavy by raya & devali eve.

We plan to spend a night at his kampung, and for the following couple of days we'll be at my parents' kampung cause I've been begging him to go visit my grandpa. After that, we'll spend one more day at my hubby's kampung before we head back to KL on Tues, 8 nov. I've planned to meet up my ex-school mates who'll be celebrating their raya in the northern region.

I always thought that this year we'll be able to throw a house warming party & raya open house for our friends, but my prediction was wrong. We may have to stay at my in-laws' place for a longer period to give way for the renovation to be completed. Sorry guys, looks like I won't be able to invite you guys to my open house. Hopefully, the house will be ready by next year.

Again, "Selamat hari raya to all" and not forgetting the Hindus who'll be celebrating Deepavali, "Happy Divali". I'm trying to make my hubby buy me one of those Indian costumes. I've always wanted to have one.

p/s: I'm not in a good mood. I've been gloomy since the day my tailor told me that she won't be able to finish with the sewing of my baju raya. A couple of days ago, I've been trying to get a ready-made kebaya but no size fits me :-( Sedey, uwaaaa.

Nasi Ulam Bonda

It's been a while since the last time I updated my blog. Sempena bulan Ramadhan ni, nk la kongsi cite ttg betapa keinginan aku menggunung utk berbuka puase dgn Nasi ulam. Some of you may wonder, ape ke menatang nasi ulam tu? Nasi ulam doesn't much intro for those from Kedah sbb nasi ulam ni org2 Kedah je yg tahu care2 nk menyediakannye/menjamahnye.

Last weekend, I went to my parents place. Mase tgh menyediakan juadah berbuka puase, trus ku khabarkn kpd ibuku hasrat utk mkn nasi ulam. Sejak awal Ramadhan lg mmg aku dh kebulur nk mkn nasi ulam, udah pueh mencari kt psr ramadhan yg ade hanyela nasi kerabu. Dpt peluang berbuke umah bonda, ku gunekan peluang itu sebaik mungkin. Bonda pon bgtau dia br jek mkn mase aritu dia balik kampung. Kebetulan, bonda br pulang dr kampung halaman - byk la ulam2 yg dibwk pulang ke pekan. Girangnya rasa hati tidak terkira, makanan yg diidam2kan akhirnya dpt jugak.

Aku bkn le arif sgt ttg care nk sediakn nasik ulam, ptg tu aku jd pembantu bonda kt dapur. Aku ikut jek perintah bonda. Bonda suruh hiris halus2 ulam, aku buat, bonda suruh tumbuk bhn2, aku tumbuk. Mmg agak remeh penyediaan nasi ulam, tp sbb nk mkn punye psl, aku wat jek dan hasil nye sungguh LAZAT. T'ubat la skang rasa rindu pada masakan arwah nenda (nasi ulam ni arwah nenda yg paling pandai masak & sebetulnye rindu kt semua masakan arwah nenda).

At one time, I miss my late grandma's cooking so much that I dreamt of her cooking for me. In that dream, I told her how much I miss her. I cried my heart out, and she was weeping as she listened to my complaints.

Car hit

Yesterday I was on medical leave, as usual it's the diarrhea attack that forced me to stay in bed. I'd to drag my feet to drive to the regular clinic. The doctor even noticed that my stomach could be easily attacked by diarrhea based on my medical report that he keeps. Seriously since I got married my stomach has become sensitive and allergic to overnight food.

Last Sunday, I forced my hubby & sons out for Raya shopping. We went to my favourite shopping stop, Mid Valley. It was about 12 pm yet the cars queuing to get a parking space was massive. As we were waiting for the long queue to move forward, we were halted by a minor car accident. The driver of the kelisa was already out of her car, barking from the top of her lung to the driver who hit her car bumper. Imagine this, she dashed out of her car the minute it was hit. She didn't even bother to move it a side before confronting the driver. Apparently her car was left in the middle of the junction, obstructing the rest of the queue to move. I was ticked off by the fact that it was just a very minimal accident that she wanted to make a big fuss over it.

Sometimes I just don't understand Msian drivers, they'll easily pissed off if other car accidently scratched theirs. It's just a scratch man, why must you put up a fight for something so small? People can't even see the scratch from afar. I remember there was one time when I was driving to work from Sg Buloh to Bkt Jalil. A waja was hit by a wira, I couldn't even notice the scratch on her car's bumper that had ticked her off. I really don't get it, I mean a car is just a car. If it happened to me, frankly I would just let it go. Well actually it happened to me once, a motorbike hit my car, the hit left a scratch on my car. The motorcyclist raised his hand as a sign of apology. I was cool, I raised my hand to say that it was fine. I'm not sure about other people, but to me if it ain't serious, I don't really mind. The most important thing to me is both parties are safe and sound, one could purchase and possess a car but one could never buy or repay others' life.

How sexy is Your Name?

According to studies, the first letter of your first name reveals your sexual identity

-A-

You are not particularly romantic, but you are interested in action. You mean business. With you, what you see is what you get. You have no patience for flirting and can't be bothered with someone who is trying to be coy, cute, demure, and subtly enticing. You are an up front person. When it comes to sex, it's action that counts not obscure hints. Your mate's physical attractiveness is important to you. You find the chase and challenge of the "hunt" invigorating. You are passionate and sexual as well as being much more adventurous than you appear; however, you do not go around advertising these qualities. Your physical needs are your primary concern.

-B-

You give off vibes of lazy sensuality. You enjoy being romanced, wined, and dined. You are very happy to receive gifts as an expression of the affection of your lover. You want to be pampered and know how to pamper your mate.
You are private in your expression of endearments and particularly when it comes to lovemaking. You will hold off until everything meets with your approval.
You can control your appetite and abstain from sex if need be. You require new sensations and experiences. You are willing to experiment.

-C-

You are a very social individual, and it is important to you to have a relationship. You require closeness and togetherness. You must be able to talk to your sex partner before, during, and after. You want the object of your affection to be socially acceptable and good looking. You see your lover as a friend and companion. You are very sexual and sensual, needing someone to appreciate and almost worship you. When this cannot be achieved, you have the ability to go for long periods without sexual activity. You are an expert at controlling your desires and doing without.

-D-

Once you get it into your head that you want someone, you move full steam ahead in pursuit. You do not give up your quest easily. You are nurturing and caring. If someone has a problem, this turns you on. You are highly sexual, passionate, loyal, and intense in your involvement, sometimes possessive and jealous. Sex to you is a pleasure to be enjoyed. You are stimulated by the eccentric and unusual, having a free and open.

-E-

Your greatest need is to talk. If your date is not a good listener, you have trouble relating. A person must be intellectually stimulating or you are not interested sexually. You need a friend for a lover and a companion for a bedmate. You hate disharmony and disruption, but you do enjoy a good argument once in a while it seems to stir things up.
You flirt a lot, for the challenge is more important than the sexual act for you, but once you give your heart away, you are uncompromisingly loyal.
When you don't have a good lover to fall asleep with, you will fall asleep with a good book. (Sometimes, in fact, you prefer a good look.)

-F-

You are idealistic and romantic, putting your lover on a pedestal. You look for the very best mate you can find. You are a flirt, yet once committed, you are very loyal. You are sensuous, sexual, and privately passionate.
Publicly, you can be showy, extravagant, and gallant. You are born
romantic.
Dramatic love scenes are your favorite fantasy pastime. You can be a
Very generous lover.

-G-

You are fastidious, seeking perfection within yourself and your lover.
You respond to a lover who is your intellectual equal or superior, and one who can enhance your status. You are sensuous and know how to reach the peak of erotic stimulation, because you work at it meticulously. You can be extremely active sexually that is, when you find the time. Your duties and responsibilities take precedence over everything else. You may have difficulty getting emotionally close to a lover, but no trouble getting close sexually.

-H-

You seek a mate who can enhance your reputation and earning ability. You will be very generous to your lover once you have attained a commitment.
Your gifts are actually an investment in your partner. Before the commitment, though, you tend to be frugal in your spending and dating
habits and equally cautious in your sexual involvement. You are a sensual and patient lover.

-I-

You have a great need to be loved, appreciated... Even worshipped. You enjoy luxury, sensuality, and pleasures of the flesh. You look for lovers who know what they are doing. You are not interested in an amateur, unless that amateur wants a tutor. You are fussy and exacting about having your desires satisfied. You are willing to experiment and try new modes of sexual expression. You bore easily and thus require sexual adventure and change.
You are more sensual than sexual, but you are sometimes downright lustful.

-J-

You are totally ing marvelous!

-K-

You can be very romantic, attached to the glamour of love. Having a partner is of paramount importance to you. You are free in your expression of love and are willing to take chances, try new sexual experiences and partners, provided it's all in good taste. Brains turn you on. You must feel that your partner is intellectually
stimulating, otherwise you will find it difficult to sustain the relationship. You require loving, cuddling, wining, and dining to know that you're being appreciated.

-L-

You are very romantic, idealistic, and somehow you believe that to love means to suffer. You wind up serving your mate or attracting people who have unusual troubles. You see yourself as your lover's savior. You are sincere, passionate, lustful, and dreamy. You can't help falling in love. You really enjoy stimulating yourself, though you are fairly new to it. You fantasize and get turned on by movies and magazines. You do not tell others of this secret life, nor of your sexual fantasies.

-M-

You are emotional and intense. When involved in a relationship, you
Throw your entire being into it. Nothing stops you; there are no holds barred.
You are all consuming and crave someone who is equally passionate and intense.
You believe in total sexual freedom. You are willing to try anything and everything. Your supply of sexual energy is inexhaustible. You also enjoy mothering your mate.

-N-

You are crap in bed. Much practice and learning is needed.

-O-

You are very interested in sexual activities yet secretive and shy about your desires. You can re-channel much of your sexual energy into making money and/or seeking power. You can easily have extended periods of celibacy. You are a passionate, compassionate, sexual lover, requiring the same qualities from your mate. Sex is serious business; thus you demand intensity and diversity, and are willing to try anything or anyone.
Sometimes your passions turn to possessiveness, which must be kept in check.

-P-

You are very conscious of social proprieties. You wouldn't think of
Doing anything that might harm your image or reputation. Appearances count, therefore, you require a good-looking partner. You also require an intelligent partner. Oddly enough, you may view your partner as your enemy;
A good fight stimulates those sex vibes. You are relatively free of
Sexual hang-ups. You are willing to experiment and try new ways of doing things.
You are very social and sensual; you enjoy flirting and need a good deal of physical gratification.

-Q-

You require constant activity and stimulation. You have tremendous physical energy. It is not easy for a partner to keep up with you, sexually or otherwise. You are an enthusiastic lover and tend to be attracted to people of other ethnic groups. You need romance, hearts and flowers, and lots of conversation to turn you on and keep you going.

-R-

You are a no-nonsense, action-oriented individual. You need someone who can keep pace with you and who is your intellectual equal the smarter the better. You are turned on more quickly by a great mind than by a great body.
However, physical attractiveness is very important to you. You have to be proud of your partner. You are privately very sexy, but you do not brag, you are willing to serve as teacher. Sex is important; you can be a very demanding playmate.

-S-
You are secretive, self-contained, and shy. You are very sexy, sensual, and passionate, but you do not let on to this. Only in intimate privacy will this part of your nature reveal itself. When it gets down to the nitty-gritty, you are an expert. You know all the little tricks of the trade, can play any role or any game, and take your love life very seriously. You don't fool around. You have the patience to wait for the right person to come along.

-T-

You are very sensitive, private, and sexually passive; you like a partner who takes the lead. Music, soft lights and romantic thoughts turn you on.
You fantasize, but do not tend to fall in and out of love easily. When in love, you are romantic, idealistic, mushy, and extremely intense. You enjoy having your senses and your feelings stimulated,
titillated, and teased. You are a great flirt. You can make your
relationships fit your dreams, oftentimes all in your own head.

-U-

You are enthusiastic and idealistic when in love. When not in love, you are in love with love, always looking for someone to adore. You see romance as a challenge. You are a roamer and need adventure, excitement, and freedom.
You deal in potential relationships. You enjoy giving gifts and enjoy seeing your mate looking good. Your sex drive is strong and you desire instant ratification. You are willing to put your partner's pleasures above your own.

-V-

You are individualistic, and you need freedom, space, and excitement.
You wait until you know someone well before committing yourself. Knowing someone means psyching him out. You feel a need to get into his head to see what makes him tick. You are attracted to eccentric types. Often there is an age difference between you and your lover. You respond to danger, thrills, and suspense. The gay scene turns you on, even though you yourself may not be a participant.

-W-

You are very proud, determined, and you refuse to take no for an answer when pursuing love. Your ego is at stake. You are romantic, idealistic, and often in love with love itself, not seeing your partner as he or she really is.
You feel deeply and throw all of yourself into your relationships.
Nothing is too good for your lover. You enjoy playing love games.

-X-

You need constant stimulation because you bore quickly. You can handle more than one relationship at a time with ease. You can't shut off your mind.
You talk while you make love. You can have the greatest love affairs, all by yourself, in your own head.

-Y-

You are sexual, sensual, and very independent. If you can't have it your way, you will forgo the whole thing. You want to control your
relationships, which doesn't always work out too well. You respond to physical stimulation, enjoy necking and spending hours just touching, feeling and exploring.
However, if you can spend your time making money, you will give up the pleasures of the flesh for the moment. You need to prove to yourself and your partner what a great lover you are. You want feedback on your performance. You are an open, stimulating, romantic bedmate.

-Z-

For you, it is business before pleasure. If you are in any way bothered by career, business, or money concerns, you find it very hard to relax and get into the mood. You can be romantically idealistic to a fault and are capable of much sensuality. But you never lose control of your emotions. You are very careful and cautious before you give your heart away and your body, for that matter. Once you make the commitment, though, you stick like glue.

Grow up! You aren’t 14 anymore!

Last Friday, a colleague informed me about the latest issue in her marital life. Frankly, I never intend to poke my nose into others’ marital issues cause I don’t like others to interfere the wonderful marital life that my hubby & I are leading. Anyway, back to my colleague, she was telling me about the problem that she was facing with her hubby. I’m well aware that she’s in her 8th week’s pregnancy, and she’s carrying her third child. Her second child was only 12 months a couple of months ago. I’m also aware of her economical condition; her hubby hasn’t got a permanent employment yet plus the fact that she’s earning more than her hubby.

She told me that she had a fight with her hubby over her hubby’s habit of playing online gaming till late at night. And her hubby could be considered a hardcore player. She said, her hubby was complaining about not having much time for himself. Time away from the children and his wife; time to enjoy himself. I must admit that sometimes, married couples need a space for individual pleasure but if a spouse need very frequent period of time away from the family, that’s very intolerable. I know the fact that the couple got married at a very young age might be the contributing factor, but hey, my hubby and I got married in young too. Age doesn’t really matter, what matters is how you carry the responsibilities of being a husband to your wife, father to your children and leader of the family.

I was so pissed off when I learnt that his hubby would rather spend his time playing online game at cyber café till the middle of the night almost every single day. Hey man, you aren’t 14 anymore, grow up! You’ve got two kids looking up to you as their idol, the idol to guide them thru the facts of life. Don’t bullshit your wife with excuses like, ‘I need sometimes for myself’, ‘I want spare time to hang out with my friends’. I’m so raged to learn this. I mean, if you couldn’t handle the huge responsibilities, why did you take the vow of marrying her in the first place? Shit like, ‘I am the youngest in my siblings, that’s why I’m so immature’ is unacceptable especially when they're expecting their third child. The first two child’s births should have transformed you into a man with responsibilities. You should take the honour of being a father by behaving, thinking, and acting like one (jangan pandai buat anak jek, tp anak serah kt bini bulat2).

Maybe it’s true that one needs a space for individual pleasure and time away from the children. As for me and my hubby the best escapade from our children is the time that we get to spend together without the children ie a movie for just the two of us. Correct me if I’m wrong, marital life isn’t about individuality anymore, it’s about giving-and-taking, tolerance and most of all opening up more space in your heart for your loved ones, plus the spouses must also be willing to forgive and forget any wrong doings between them. Most important of all, don’t be ashamed to admit your mistake, there’s no such thing as embarrassment when it comes to saying sorry for things done.

Salam Ramadhan

Salamsss,

Sempena bulan Ramadhan yang mulia ini aku nak mengambil kesempatan mengucapkan selamat berpuasa buat sume muslimin muslimat di seluruh dunia. Ucapan ini khusus untuk ex-cko sume, tibe2 t'ingat time pose kt IMU dolu2 especially bile ade jamuan berbuke pose. Sonok gak dpt lepak2 dgn student and staf2 IMU yg lain.

Sekali lagi selamat menjalankan ibadah puase dgn penuh keinsafan & byk2kn la amal di bulan ni, solat terawih jgn tuang.