all about a friend

This is a sequal to my update yesterday, "hurts hurt"

I sincerely sympathise this really good friend of mine. Almost every now & then, he had to face & put up with different sort of obtacles and problems. One of his major problem is his financial. The other day he came to me, seeking for assistance in monetary form. My hubby & I tried to provide alternatives to resolve his problem instead of just focussing on his 'ultimate' plan. We really wanted to help him out, but not the way he is planning it coz we think that there are other financial aids to mend his financial problem. We even seek 2nd opinion from our trusted financial advisor whose working with Bank Negara and our advisor's opinion was totally againts his 'ultimate' plan.

I can't help but wonder, "why doesn't he seek assistance from his family members since he is staying with them? Why can't any of his family members bail him out of his problem". This friend of mine once told me that when he tried to get help from his brother, his brother bombarded him and put the blame on him & told him that he won't offer any kind of help. As long as I know him, his father & bother are running a family business which is growing steadily. I really don't think that they can't afford to loan him some money to settle his problem. I remembered when I wanted to buy my kenari I didn't have enough $ for the downpayment, I went straight to my parents to loan me some & they gave me RM2k which they assured I don't have to pay them back, kate mak, "mak halalkan $ tu". I had been wrecking my head searching for a solid reason why didn't he go to his family instead of his friends. The only thing that I can think of is that he must have done something awful in his past that his family members wouldn't forget.

I shouldn't jump to conclusion but since he always told me his problem very vaguely I can't help myself from making conclusion based on my own interpretation. To my dear friend, I apologise if my conclusion & decision had hurt your feelings and if any of my expression in this blog of mine had offended you in anyway. I've been trying my very best to help him out but for this time around my hands are tight and I can't do anything about it. The assistance his seeking for is a little too much. I'm sorry, dear friend